Breaking Free from Love Addiction: Therapy to Find Secure Love Within

100+ women guided to healthier relationships” | “15+ years of specialized experience

Love shouldn’t feel like obsession, panic, or self-doubt.

Do you keep attracting relationships that leave you feeling unseen, anxious, or insufficient?

You might fall for unavailable partners, obsessing about when they will text you, or replaying tiny interactions, knowing you “should” move on but feeling like you just can’t.

Perhaps you keep getting stuck in cycles of intensity, obsession, or fantasy each time. Panic might occur when someone pulls away or makes you feel suffocated when they get too close. Relationships also might make you confuse the drama for love, or quiet stability for boredom.

Although you tell yourself, “This time will be different,” you keep repeating the same painful patterns.

Love addiction and attachment wounds don’t mean you’re broken.

They’re old survival strategies, representing ways your nervous system learned to protect you. But they can be transformed.

And to be super clear, the term “love addiction” is widely used in the recovery world, but it’s not about being “addicted to actual love.” What we often carry are attachment wounds and developmental trauma, representing childhood deficits or unmet needs that we unconsciously try to resolve in adult romantic relationships.

Of course, it doesn’t work. We watch these cycles repeatedly play out until we become aware of them and begin to transform them.

“The psychological rule says that when an inner situation is not made conscious, it happens outside, as fate.” – Carl Jung

Why is love addiction so hard to break?

Because it’s not just about willpower, it’s about deep conditioning, early attachment wounds, and unresolved trauma.

• If you had inconsistent caregiving, you may crave closeness while fearing abandonment.
• If love felt conditional growing up, you may have learned to over-give, people-please, or prove yourself to be worthy of love.
• If you’ve experienced the mother wound, you may silence your needs, shrink yourself, or feel permanently “too much” or “not enough.”

Withdrawing from love addiction is not easy.

Your nervous system wires these patterns in. That’s why it can feel impossible to “just stop,” even when you know a relationship is unhealthy.

Pia Mellody, author of Facing Love Addiction, describes withdrawal from love addiction as one of the most painful human experiences – often more intense than substance withdrawal – because it strikes at our most fundamental need for connection and survival.

This is why we don’t do it alone. Healing these wounds requires safe connection, structure, and support.

Therapy makes overcoming the unbearable seem possible. As a therapist, I work with women who are ready to break free from painful relationship cycles and finally feel secure in love with themselves and others.

Using my RIFRA method, I integrate:

• Relational therapy →healing attachment patterns in a safe, attuned connection.
• Somatic Experiencing® →calming the nervous system and rewiring trauma responses.
• Depth psychology & coaching →uncovering root stories, rewriting old beliefs, and stepping into new possibilities.
• Creative expression→ movement, journaling, and embodied practices to bring insight into action.

I don’t share this work from theory alone because I’ve been through it myself. I know the ache of chasing unavailable love, the spiral of self-doubt, and the grief of letting go. I have also experienced the freedom on the other side.

Why select me to help you?

I trained in Pia Mellody’s Post-Induction Therapy (PIT) model and worked as a therapist at The Meadows, where Pia Mellody coined “codependency.” Pia’s groundbreaking insight was that all love addicts are codependents, but not all codependents are love addicts.

My time at The Meadows and recovery journey have given me a unique perspective. I understand the depth of these wounds and the pathways to freedom.

I bring both professional training and lived wisdom into how I guide women through attachment healing and transformational coaching.

“This is individual therapy tailored to your unique attachment patterns and relationship history.”

Read what past clients have shared about their experience.

“When I first met Tanya, I was a broken woman with no hope… in only 7 months, my life has changed 100%. I have been able to take huge steps towards becoming who I have always dreamed of being.”
– Abby

“Through her genuine belief in me and encouragement, I was able to finally believe in myself and see a light at the end of the tunnel.”
– RHS participant

Gain vision and experience transformation.

What shifts when you transform love addiction and attachment wounds?

• You feel grounded and secure in relationships and can distinguish between love, intensity, and fantasy.
• Setting and holding boundaries without fear of abandonment becomes easier.
• Rather than chasing partners who can’t meet your needs, you attract people who can.
• Your self-esteem naturally rises. As you approach relationships from a higher ground, spot red flags sooner, and protect and care for yourself, toxic dynamics are no longer attractive.

Most importantly, you feel at home in yourself. Transformation isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s about learning to love without losing yourself.

Healthy love is possible.

If you’re tired of repeating the same painful relationship patterns, you don’t have to figure this out alone.

I offer 1:1 sessions and group programs to help women address attachment wounds, reclaim their voice, and create more secure, fulfilling relationships.

It’s possible to create relationships that feel safe, reciprocal, and secure.

You deserve relationships that bring peace, not constant uncertainty.

👉 Ready to take the next step? Schedule an initial consultation to see whether we’re a good fit.