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Trauma & CPTSD Therapy

Trauma is like an unwelcome guest—taking over space in your house that was never theirs to begin with.

Sometimes it shows up as the pink elephant in the room: the one topic you can’t bring up with your partner for fear they’ll explode or shut down—just like that old caregiver.

Other times it’s the voice that cuts into what should be a beautiful day—at the pool, on the beach—whispering: “You’re not good enough. Your body isn’t good enough. Nothing you do is ever good enough.”

It’s the knot in your throat that silences what you really want to say.

The tears that come when underneath, what you’re really holding is rage.

And then the loop begins: the hyper/hypo cycle. One day you’re anxious and over-functioning, hustling to prove yourself. The next you’re collapsed in bed, too drained to get up—until the very anxiety that wore you out drags you back into motion.

That cycle eats away at your energy, your confidence, your hope.

4LIVING WITH TRAUMA FEELS LONELY

On the outside, you may look strong, capable, even successful.

Inside, it’s a private world of flashbacks, rumination, sleepless nights, nightmares, panic, avoidance, and shame.

CPTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) goes deeper. It’s not just “symptoms.” It’s relational trauma that rewires how you move through the world: anxiety, people-pleasing, dependency or hyper-independence, walls or lack of boundaries, constant self-critique, perfectionism.

You bend over backward for others, then fear you’ll lose everything if you stop accommodating.

THIS WASN’T YOUR CHOICE

Our culture trains us to ignore our desires, suppress our needs, and cater to everyone else, especially for high-functioning women.

Decades later, many wake up disconnected from their bodies, their joy, their truth, and what they want. I call this Modern Detachment Syndrome—and it’s everywhere.

And underneath it all lives the voice: “I’m broken. I’m too much. It’s too late for me.”

“Right HerStory was an enriching experience of self-exploration and discovery! Through the program, Tanya helped me to find my voice and ease of expression. Relationships in my life have transformed because I no longer resist sharing my true self.”
 — Jacie

WHY TALKING ABOUT TRAUMA ISN’T ENOUGH

I began my path in the healing arts at 20, learning from indigenous healers, brilliant academics, and the hardest seasons of my own life. All of it—the wisdom, the rigor, the lived experience—has shaped the integrative approach I use today, bringing together tools that go straight to the root of attachment and relational trauma.

Talking about trauma only goes so far. You can analyze your patterns to death and still feel stuck. Self-knowledge doesn’t change survival patterns. Healing happens when your nervous system actually feels something different.

That’s why in our work together we go beyond talk. We slow down and work at a pace your nervous system can actually handle—no forcing, no pushing through. We practice listening to your body’s natural signals—its “yes,” “no,” and “maybe”—and we strengthen those signals with compassion.

I use my RIFRA method to address the root of developmental trauma:

  • getting in touch with buried feelings (sadness, anger, grief),
  • channeling them in healthy ways instead of suppressing them,
  • reflecting on how you want to reparent your inner child now,
  • and putting those insights into real action.

My approach blends Somatic Experiencing®, depth psychology, The Meadows trauma training, PIT, expressive arts, movement, and more. Clients say I don’t just sit back and nod—I’m actively with you, helping keep the process alive and moving.

Most importantly, we practice compassion along the way. Because the way to peace is peace.

“When I first met Tanya, I was a broken woman with no hope. Through her genuine belief in me and encouragement, I finally believed in myself. In only 7 months, my life has changed 100%. Tanya helped me realize my worth, discover who I want to be, and start that journey.”
 — Abby

13WHAT HEALING TRAUMA CAN LOOK LIKE

Healing trauma means more aliveness, joy, and connection with your why.
It means being able to name and express your feelings, to act on your behalf, and to move from helplessness into choice.

Imagine feeling at ease in your body. Speaking up and setting boundaries without panic. Trusting yourself and your decisions. Sleeping through the night. Building healthy, loving relationships.

Clients describe a deep pride—sometimes quiet, sometimes loud—at finally speaking their truth.

A wholeness that rings with authenticity. A life that feels righteous, aligned, deserved.

And often, a quiet awe: “Wow… this stuff really works. The Universe is actually benevolent.”

“RHS was a life-changing experience; a journey of self-realization and self-acceptance led to greater self-confidence and self-belief. We shared our vulnerable sides in a safe circle, and as a result, I could experience love, care, and true acceptance.” 
— Maryam A.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO KEEP ENTERTAINING THAT UNWELCOME GUEST

It’s time to reclaim your house.

I know it’s scary to trust; it can feel like everyone wants something from you. But these tools work—I know because they worked for me. They saved me years of pain, and I’ve since watched hundreds of women integrate them into their lives, families, work, and dreams.

You don’t have to live in survival mode anymore. Healing is possible.

Let’s start with a free 20-minute consultation to see if this feels like the right fit.

👉 Book your consultation here or call me at (858) 480-7685.